Body & Mind

Stop chasing instant results and start building a life that lasts. Explore the power of patience in personal growth and learn how to navigate the painful endurance required for a truly glorious transformation. Your breakthrough is closer than you think. Patience is the key. The Power of Patience What is the Power of Patience? It’s been a little more than a month since I joined the gym, though I’ve been training there about 3 to 4 days a week. I’m not insane to find a physical transformation so early. When I told my friends that I’d begun physical training at the gym, they laughed at me, saying what’s with this paunch? touching my slightly bulged belly. I have slight belly fat, not a real big one.  For me, a flat belly with a muscular build impresses me, and I think it’s a pride for any gender, so I joined a gym. Today, working out at the gym, I turned to the head coach as he stood beside me.  I was doing my crunches, and I told him I wanted to get rid of this belly and how many of these crunches would help me.  He advised me on the various belly exercises, standing, and floor ones. He spoke of how diet plays a key role in any physical transformation of a body, especially the belly, which was my concern. But something he said as he ended the talk that maybe got me a bit philosophical and seemed like a sage’s advice for life and its ways. He said it all depends on how much time you give to your workout. You just work out, and there will be a change. If you give time and consistency, there will certainly be a change in your body, and your bulging belly will be flat and toned instead. He told me the ‘power of patience’ is real. Indeed, he seemed right, as for proof, I have a co-member in the gym.  He has a highly muscular physique; even with his T-shirt worn, he still looked all so muscular and in shape.  I asked him how long it took him to carve such a body, and he, being a humble guy, replied sheepishly two years. Further prompted by me on each day’s workout time, he said around two hours. Now, just what the head coach’s suggestion of time seemed like was a double-tick on a messenger app guiding me to show I ought that the message be restored as read and retained, that is, Time… We live in a world that is obsessed with the “now.”  We have instant coffee, instant messaging, and an unspoken expectation of instant success.  Then there are curated feeds of overnight millionaires and twenty-somethings who seem to have “figured it all out,” and we subconsciously set a stopwatch for our own lives. When we don’t hit our milestones according to a self-imposed, lightning-fast schedule, we feel like we are failing. Every lifestyle has a design and a pattern of self-improvement that needs to be worked on.  If you want great things, things that last, then surely you require a brutal amount of time. Understanding the power of patience in personal growth isn’t just about waiting; it’s about how you behave and evolve while you wait. The Illusion of the Overnight Success The modern “hustle culture” has sold us a lie. The power of patience is never spoken of.  In fact, it tells us that if we aren’t seeing results within a month, we need to change the way we work.  This, in turn, creates a cycle of “start and stop.” “Practice makes perfect” does not apply to these. I went to the countryside, where my f-in-law has a property, and his neighbour and many others around had planted betel nut trees.  These trees, I was told, typically begin producing fruit 5 to 8 years after planting. While some trees may start bearing fruit in as little as 4 years, commercial, economic yields generally would commence around 7 years.  Now the power of patience is rewarded to these cultivators of betel nut trees, I felt.  Your personal growth was not happening in a week or a month; you were preparing and growing every day.  So like the betel nut tree, your initial years (of brutal struggle) are your root-building phase.  So keep your calm, even if it’s going slow, as long as it’s consistent and on. Success can be slow, but consistency and effort guarantee success is for sure. Growth is uncomfortable because it requires the death of your old self or the death of old ways.  To become the person you want to be, you have to let go of the habits, mindsets, and even the social circles that kept you where you were. This transition period is what many call “the messy middle.” In this phase, you are doing the work, but the rewards haven’t arrived yet.  You’re hitting the gym, but the man in the mirror hasn’t changed.  You’re writing your book, but the pages feel mediocre. You’re practising mindfulness, but you still feel flashes of anxiety.  This is where most people quit. They mistake the lack of immediate feedback for a lack of progress. Patience is the shield that protects you during this time. It allows you to say, “I am not seeing the fruit yet, but I know the roots are growing.” That is the power of patience at play.  Give time time The above would mean practising patience and allowing a situation, person, or process to develop naturally without forcing or rushing it.  Time can be a healer, the answer, or the secret.  The power of patience, thus giving time, would resolve challenges, and clarity would emerge.  It is to trust the passage of time.  There are similar idioms to encourage, like… “Time will tell” “Patience is a virtue”, and “Time will heal”, and this holds for the broken hearts more.  Essentially, it is a reminder to stop forcing a specific timeline and

No life seem to be free from the burden of anger and un- forgiveness within oneself in this breathing sphere. Every life seem to be laced in stress and conflicts arising at work, in families, and the persons that they encounter each day. We hate or dislike others and forgiving and letting go of anger is essential not just for our daily interacting, but also for our own peace. Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting or excusing wrongs. It means choosing freedom over bitterness.   Forgiving and Letting Go of Anger Why Forgiving and Letting Go of Anger Matters First is to understand when we are hurt or wronged and unforgiving, there the effect or our response is getting angry. Anger will not resolve your moment of mistake, it will only complex or hurt the other and yourself.  Forgiving and anger may mean apart but they can be intertwined to result in lasting peace. We begin with first understanding,   What is anger and its repercussions? Anger gives you the Illusion that you’re in Control. Anger often feels like a righteous shield. In a situation where we’ve been wronged, hurt, or betrayed, anger can make us feel powerful, justified, and in control. It feels like a form of protection, a way to ensure we never get hurt that way again. We also mistake the intensity of anger for strength. Holding on to anger for too long turns it into resentment, which further affects both our body and mind.   But anger or getting angry has consequences.   Emotional Effects: Prolonged anger leads to anxiety, irritability, and even depression.            Making you feel frustrated and even lonely. Physical Effects: Studies link chronic anger to high blood pressure, heart diseases, and poor sleep. Relational Effects: Keeping grudges and words spoken in anger break families, ruin friendships and relations, and create workplace stress. Addictive and Routine: Anger can get addictive and become a way of life as response to situation’s when adverse or not of one’s liking.   What will happen when you forgive? When you choose forgiveness over anger, you’re not excusing harmful and hurtful behavior of yourself and of the other (in response), you’re freeing yourself from being controlled by it. (Forgiving and letting go of anger is a gift you give others second, but yourself first.)  Forgiving isn’t about erasing the past but about refusing the past to control your future. To forgive is an intentional choice to stop the hurt from constantly replaying in your mind. If anger closes the heart, letting go and forgiving can open spaces for joy and peace. When angry, you were controlled by the situation, by forgiving, you are at the driver’s seat, thus in control.  Letting go of resentment and forgiving is therefore not an act of weakness, it is an act of profound self-care. You know now that your peace is more important than your pain.   The Philosophy of Finding Peace Forgiving and Letting Go of Anger: The Philosophical Point Modern life is living in tempestuous currents, where stress and conflict can be our constant companions. Here to practice forgiving and letting go of anger can be an act of profound liberation for ourselves and others. To forgive is not your sign of weakness, in fact they are choices of power and deliberate choice that you make that would end up in lasting inner peace and more compassionate existence. Embracing to practice this philosophy isn’t merely about absolving others of their wrongs, it is an act of self-care that frees us from the toxic painful chains and hurts of resentment, un-forgiveness and anger.   To get angry is a natural human emotion, a signal that our boundaries have been crossed or our peace and understanding violated. Anger will not resolve, it makes you believe that your behavior of getting angry is making the other person suffer, but it’s a self-inflicted wound that prevents and shadows our peace and joy. Life is once, there are many a days filled with their bags of troubles, emotional debts we carry and collect. Forgiving and letting go of anger is releasing these debts, unburdening the weight. Healing our hostility Finding Clarity over Chaos Reclaiming our power on these situations We now are going against the trend where to retaliate and protest is the norm. If we are an extension of the nature that is around us and if we have to learn from its ways, then our response should be to pause, reflect, and respond with grace and not fury, no matter what be the act of dissent and disagreement. When you throw a stone over still water, there would be a rippling effect, let the words on the stone you throw be read as ‘forgiven’ and the ripple effect will be peace, joy and happiness. You are more courageous and strong when you forgive as this act isn’t normal for all to practice. But you are not normal…you are special. In a world saturated with division, this practice is a beacon of hope, reminding us that our shared humanity and living in this moment and time or era is far more significant than our differences. By consciously choosing to forgive and let go, we not only heal ourselves, we are contributing towards a globe of compassion and understanding, an act of liberation. A hero you are…   Escaping Resentment How to Let Go of Anger and Forgive in Daily Life It isn’t easy, but human living also was never easy. Practicing forgiving and letting go of anger is a process, when nursed and lived can become a way of life.   Acknowledge the hurt. It’s happened, recognize its occurring. Suppressing the hurt will have it raising its head in your moments of joy. Hurts and pains are for the moments, deal with them then. Your reaction of forgiving and choosing to not respond in anger will benefit and muscle your peace. It’s like if your emotion had a face, then the respond