Solitude that Is Healthy

Solitude is not the most revered word that announces triumph in the materialistic standards of our world.

Solitude would read as being alone, but the seer speaks to differ that it is not merely being alone; it’s about being present with yourself.

The philosophies of the seer are not for everyday, normal kinds.

He would further his speech to say that it is a conscious, deliberate state of withdrawal from the noise of the world to connect with the voice within.

Now, motivational speakers say we need to be more extroverted, so choosing solitude can feel like a rebellious act.

Our times prize extroversion.

So what’s with solitude that we will seek?

It is in this quiet space that the magic of clarity happens.

Like a car has a workshop where it’s built, and a garage where it is repaired.

Nature has also built for us a personal workshop that we can step into for the mind and soul, and it’s to go within, thus solitude.

Chosen solitude is not a space; it is a state of fullness.

It is not the absence of others, but the conscious, deliberate choice, and a joyful presence of someone, that is oneself.

It is a curated space where the noise of the world recedes, an inner symphony, your own, created or inbuilt and unheard by you.

This solitude is now a temple and, not a prison, if it were otherwise loneliness.

There is a difference between loneliness and solitude.

And let your state be one of solitude.

Your life in the age of modernity and urban style, with traits of pace, change, and notifications, has erased the inner sway of knowing your own abilities and resilience.

Silence is good; we were never conditioned to try.

We mistook being quiet for a state of emptiness.

But what I did not know was that this quiet is not empty at all.

This was a medium through my life to move into dimensions that I had never tread. And I had it all as unknown.

Choosing solitude can be an act of self-understanding and search.

My mind was like a theatre where many a movie had played, thus I held not to even one, to say it speaks for me.

For that, I need to let the movie play slowly so that I can understand the scenes and it’s playing for me.

Now solitude teaches me that no masks are required, for colleagues, family and friends.

I need not perform; this is life, not a scripted stage.

So shun that social script.

The script of your life is written, but all in secret codes, revealed with every living breath of yours. You can never be the best actor when the play is real, and not a stage or reel.

Find solitude as your highest companion, that was and will be the only one till the last beat of your heart synchronised with your breath, when on earth.

This moment with oneself can be unsettling and novel at first, like a sudden stop, the noise and chaos of your own body that seemed like a running train engine earlier is now a place of a still boat in the deep sea, just being caressed by the mighty waves, and being felt like a mother rocking her baby in her arms.

That’s the state that the seer had advised to be, and called solitude.

That’s Me

Find your authentic self.

What I was earlier was a curated being, moulded to please and adjust to those around me. A socially shaped profile was what I was sketching, erasing and re-sketching of myself.

In solitude, the one within me is raw, unedited, and infinitely complex, still so sweet and named as nectar within.

The thinking now is honest, what was my trait, and when my senses were placed in my order of being by my Creator.

It’s like a reboot of me has happened.

The process of joy and sorrow seemed like being the luggage in the last bogey of my life train.

My engine now reads “Who am I, truly?”

I had a first-of-a-kind, self-encounter.

Nature has it built in us all. Then great things happen, which were followed.

Einstein’s thought experiments, Beethoven’s compositions despite his deafness, the profound meditations of the Buddha — all required a withdrawal from the collective hum to tap into a deeper, more universal frequency.

The universe has music; we don’t have the ears to hear it.

Solitude is a womb, from which births originate.

Let the pressure and chaos not consume you.

Like modern devices need to be charged electrically, so that they can perform according to their purpose and design.

Solitude can be your moment of charging to clarify your purpose and design, and not a mere journey on earth as a human being.

Connect the dots to solve the equations of our life.

There’s a genius in you, waiting for that spark to ignite.

Solitude, what will you gain

It’s your training ground.

Your eternal dependence will overpower your external validation.

Opinions and others’ attention do not matter now.

You build a fortress for yourself, you’re drawing water from your own well.

Setbacks of life, rejection, failure, and loss are all weathered to come and go, when we say we are living a life, but there is a challenge within you that is nurtured to be called resilience and an inner strength.

Solitude teaches that there is a complete universe unto itself.

Mistake this not as arrogance; it is the quiet, unshakeable confidence that comes from being intimately acquainted with one’s own soul.

Finding your dialogue with your soul in solitude.

Solitude is not self-confinement or dissuading oneself from the world; in fact, it teaches one to relate to people from a place of inner fullness.

The relation with people is now generous, purer, and less transactional or materialistic.

There’s a me that hears deeply, loves more freely, and deals more authentically because we do not use others to mirror just how we are.

We now see the other person as part of beings in the cosmos as one in this era of time.

Thus, we all have our parts to play in this life, distinct but united, forming one complete image like that of the earth, round, full and rotating.

Practicing Solitude

How to reach the station of Solitude?

It’s as simple as stepping away from the noise and sitting quietly with your own thoughts.

It’s turning off the world for a moment and turning inward to listen

It’s pausing, breathing deeply, and giving your soul room to speak.

It’s choosing stillness over speed, reflection over reaction.

It’s setting aside a few minutes each day to be alone — not to escape life, but to meet yourself within it.

It’s disconnecting from distractions so you may reconnect with your inner voice.

It’s sitting in silence long enough for your heart to be heard.

Keep it simple…

Get into micro-solitudes in a crowded day, like just walking away and being alone, even if your stop watch showed seventy-seven seconds, that you were alone.

Let the headphones be on with a sound that elevates you in solitude.

Wash your face with flowing water many times a day. The tap is man-made, but the water that flows is divine and natural; with its touch, it embraces your being to the cosmos, reminding you of where you originally belong.

A gentle touch to any part of your body or a rub of your hands away from your working laptop, with your eyes closed, let your mind speak to your body, telling it that it is part of the creation, contributing to its completion.

Now you’re spending your moments of the day not like “killing time” but to “live the time”, deeply.

In your entire lifetime, you, yourself, are the most trusted and enduring companion you will ever have.

Being in solitude is like a homecoming to what you were when in your mother’s womb, all by yourself for your own self.

In these quiet self moments, all your life experiences are like scattered pieces that are now brought together to form a treatise for your life.

The solitude reveals your potential, confronts your truths, and deepens your understanding of what it means to be alive and kicking.

Do not fear the quiet room of your body. Step inside, dive within.

Choosing solitude is like chalk and cheese when compared to loneliness.

You are building a home within you, a place of strength and serenity.

Life is beautiful, would be your statement every day.

Look inside, try solitude.

You were made for the inside first, and then the outside.

Love Life…

“Life is saying hi” to you every day.